There are always two kinds of people: the crazy one, and the boring one.
So… which one are you? According to a recent viral TikTok, in a successful relationship, there are always two kinds of people: the crazy one, and the boring one.
The crazy one is the person who usually does the things that drive other people crazy. They might be messier, louder, and generally more annoying. However, they are seen as more fun, outgoing, adventurous, and fearless.
The boring person is the opposite. They probably have a more organized life, is thoughtful, provides for themselves, and are more level-headed. However, they are perceived as boring, because their energy just does not match their friends’ and they will do the jobs that no one else wants.
Whether you are the crazy person or the boring one, it’s okay!
There is not one that is better than the other, and our world would not work without either. You are valued!
This is also a very wide rule, and it should be treated more like a spectrum of crazy to boring. Where do you think you fall on this spectrum? Why do you think each relationship has one crazy person and one boring one?
While this rule is in line with the saying “opposites attract”, I think there is a component missing. I call it the Rescued vs. Rescuer Approach or the Prince/Princess Approach. I’m going to preface by saying: I know this concept includes the stereotype of a princess and prince. However, I am not playing to gender stereotypes.
Anyone can be the Princess, and anyone can be the Prince.
Which one are you?
Okay, let’s get into it. One key element to any relationship is the kind of person you attract and the kind of person you pursue. In this approach, the crazy person is called the Princess, and the boring person is Prince Charming. This is because the Princess attracts a rescuer and the Prince attracts the person who needs rescue.
The Princess is the person who is more in-tune with their emotions, but it gets the best of them. While most people desire someone to pursue them, the Princess needs someone to pursue them in order to better understand who they are. They need someone else to process their emotions. While they know their emotions better than a Prince, it takes someone who is removed from the situation to rescue the Princess from their emotions. Often a Princess will get far into self-doubt or low-self esteem. This person is very sensitive to other people’s vibes and takes things very personally. The Prince Charming brings the Princess clarity, stability, and optimism.
The Prince “rescues” the Princess. The Princess “grounds” the Prince. Relationships need both crazy and boring.
The Prince Charming in the relationship is the one who has everything under control. They like to have things figured out, and they often neglect their own emotions. This is ironic because they are excellent at helping others with their own emotions. Princes are drawn to Princesses because they see a glimpse of their own emotions while helping the Princess with theirs. To the Prince, the Princess brings fun, energy, adventure, and spontaneity to the relationship. The Princess constantly reminds the Prince that it’s okay to feel emotions – especially when something hurts or when a Prince might need extra affection. Being super empathetic, the Princess helps the Prince look into themselves.
I’ve seen this concept play out in so many relationships, and once you understand the two types, it is easier to see them all around you. It also helps us understand the motives and strengths of each!
So… are you a Princess or a Prince?